I’ve been a sex worker for so long now that sometimes I wonder which parts of my high femme identity are things I do because of work, and which parts are due to my work.
What’s important is how I choose to view sex workers, and how I view myself, and the sex workers in the community who I choose to surround myself with. I see us as powerful, empowering, deeply beautiful, nurturing, compassionate, passionate, driven, creative, fun, and just business savvy people.
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
"I honestly think that the majority of sugar babies don't consider themselves sex workers because of the legalities or the heavy stigma behind the title of 'sex worker'."
What’s it like starting out now, when ads have shifted from the back pages of the local paper to almost exclusively online? When everyone talks about being ‘on brand’ and a social media presence is essential?