I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
I had always been told that to be a trans girl was to be completely undesirable and abject. It was good for me to meet someone who wanted that and wanted me, no lies and no pretense––
As of this interview (Oct 2022), I have been in the world of escorting for only about 10 months, but I’m not new to sex work. Fun fact: I’ve been in the sex work industry since I was 18 years old! I started off as a Nude Seller on Discord
I started full service work in 2018 as a way to supplement my student loans and feed my desires to just buy things. I had come out as trans in 2017 and found that it had become shockingly difficult to get hired in any civie job
When it comes to sex work, there’s no shortage of lessons to be learned about oneself, including what “sex”, “work” or even what the term “yourself” actually means. I’d have to say that it’s mostly taught me that there's no wrong or right answer.