I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
The journey into sex work for me has been enlightening and enjoyable. I appreciate the ample amount of free time this career affords me where I can focus on my hobbies. I feel blessed to have found sex work.
I thought I’d had a plenitude of sexual experience when I started—I... had a sex blog where I would write about OKCupid and Craigslist hookups—but most of those encounters were things I was hazing myself through.
The threats sex workers face are not just from clients or individuals in society; the very system we live within is at the root of much of the violence we face.