#SANDIEGO may have been here

We’re not different from you. We’re just doing a job, the same way you are. Any kind of person could be a sex worker. You probably know more sex workers than you think you do.

At age 35 I quit an unfulfilling corporate job and started sex work as an independent full service kink friendly switch. My early days were filled with wild situations and marked by an utter lack of self preservation.

I’m sure you have heard over and over that communication is key. Yes, but how does one communicate?

For escorts, anal play is a common request. But many clients aren’t aware of the correct etiquette, how to prepare, or how to be safe during an anal session. You may be unsure how to ask for these services...or worry you’ll be judged as ‘gross’ or ‘deviant’.

Whenever my job is mentioned in newspapers, blogs, or magazines, the same tropes tend to pop up: moral panic, drug abuse, violence. Journalists quote us selectively, so that it sounds as if we’re living out the sex-negative, whorephobic stereotypes the public are used to consuming.