Vanilla sex has always turned me off. I look for something deeper. That's why I reinvented myself as fetish practitioner. You can have sex and feel absolutely nothing. That's so heteronormative for it to be 'put penis in vagina and cum'. For me, sex is erotica.
I think sex is: beautiful, important, powerful, necessary, and a whole range of other words and ideas as exhibited throughout history. And me being a naturally curious and flirtatious person, I like to explore that range in myself as well as with my partners