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At age 35 I quit an unfulfilling corporate job and started sex work as an independent full service kink friendly switch. My early days were filled with wild situations and marked by an utter lack of self preservation.

Clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley has long been critical of the sex addiction framework, and wrote the book The Myth of Sex Addiction to explain why. I sat down with him to explore why sex addiction is a problematic concept, and how it contributes to whorephobia.

Whenever my job is mentioned in newspapers, blogs, or magazines, the same tropes tend to pop up: moral panic, drug abuse, violence. Journalists quote us selectively, so that it sounds as if we’re living out the sex-negative, whorephobic stereotypes the public are used to consuming.

In November of last year, I finally got back to work. But slipping back into sex work was far more difficult than I’d expected.

For escorts, anal play is a common request. But many clients aren’t aware of the correct etiquette, how to prepare, or how to be safe during an anal session. You may be unsure how to ask for these services...or worry you’ll be judged as ‘gross’ or ‘deviant’.