'Communication, consent, and understanding your partner's desires and boundaries are essential for a satisfying and healthy sex life. Everyone is unique.'
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
'Sex Work has given me a place to bring forth an intensely femme side of myself that isn’t often out in other areas of my life. I have learned that I really enjoy shifting my gender presentation to inspire lust and desire.'
This kind of work requires so many different skill sets, any sex worker must also be a good judge of character and very discerning when dealing with every single client they interact with.
'There’s a lot of hate in this world but through sex work – and I’m talking specifically about companionship – we create such a loving intimate space for people, free of judgment.'