@stellagold may have been here

The lives of 19th century women are known to us today mainly through their letters and writing, but also through the then new (black-and-white) portrait photography, and the vivid paintings, pastels and watercolours of impressionist artists.

Setting up business as an independent sex worker means putting a lot of information about ourselves online: our photos, our carefully-written advertising text, and our working names. This content is valuable because it brings in clients (and income).

Whenever my job is mentioned in newspapers, blogs, or magazines, the same tropes tend to pop up: moral panic, drug abuse, violence. Journalists quote us selectively, so that it sounds as if we’re living out the sex-negative, whorephobic stereotypes the public are used to consuming.

I’m a big sport fan! I come from a sports loving and playing family. We had season tickets to football and constantly went to baseball and basketball games. Everyone in my family played a sport or 3.

Instead of cheating or separating, some couples choose consensual non monogamy...and although it’s not straightforward, it could be worth considering.