What’s it like starting out now, when ads have shifted from the back pages of the local paper to almost exclusively online? When everyone talks about being ‘on brand’ and a social media presence is essential?
There are as many different kinds of sex workers as there are kinds of people, so when seeking out a provider to help you explore your queerness it’s good to ask yourself questions.
'I think sex work has made me feel like I have to be in a binary to be able to be marketable, and it’s been a journey not letting that dictate my ability to actualize.'
"I honestly think that the majority of sugar babies don't consider themselves sex workers because of the legalities or the heavy stigma behind the title of 'sex worker'."
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.