I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
What’s important is how I choose to view sex workers, and how I view myself, and the sex workers in the community who I choose to surround myself with. I see us as powerful, empowering, deeply beautiful, nurturing, compassionate, passionate, driven, creative, fun, and just business savvy people.
"Finding community helped me to not only work through a lot of shame that I held around being a sex worker, but also to develop the skills and tools needed to engage with kink and in-person sex work in a safer and healthier way."
So far, sex work has been a wonderful job for me! I really enjoy meeting different types of people and have felt so lucky to connect with clients and colleagues who both share and expand my interests. The best gift this job has given me is the free time to pursue my interests.
The threats sex workers face are not just from clients or individuals in society; the very system we live within is at the root of much of the violence we face.