"BDSM to me is about taking a part or parts of ourselves and blowing them up to be our entire existence in this nonlinear moment of time. This might include aspects of ourselves that may be buried and that we often do not fully understand."
Plenty of sex workers have not-so-fun stories about getting started ... Instead, ask us about our favorite movies, music, food, flowers, etc! That is a much better way to learn about us as individuals
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
Our ultimate goal is to foster a safe, positive community among migrant sex workers and give them the language skills necessary to navigate potentially dangerous/complex situations.
'I believe the most important thing to do in life is constantly challenge yourself & learn as much as you can. You need to hustle hard in sex work to be successful.'