"Finding community helped me to not only work through a lot of shame that I held around being a sex worker, but also to develop the skills and tools needed to engage with kink and in-person sex work in a safer and healthier way."
"BDSM to me is about taking a part or parts of ourselves and blowing them up to be our entire existence in this nonlinear moment of time. This might include aspects of ourselves that may be buried and that we often do not fully understand."
"I was excited about choosing sex work, and was the happiest I have ever been when I got into it. I performed, met new people and learned from them all the time. I helped people and made people happy."
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
Social Media is a hydra of sorts where the power to change the narrative is wielded by commodifying authenticity and intimacy, and that power can offer opportunity or danger no matter how you slice it. Everything is connected and until the systemic discrimination and exploitation of sex workers