When it comes to sex work, there’s no shortage of lessons to be learned about oneself, including what “sex”, “work” or even what the term “yourself” actually means. I’d have to say that it’s mostly taught me that there's no wrong or right answer.
So far, sex work has been a wonderful job for me! I really enjoy meeting different types of people and have felt so lucky to connect with clients and colleagues who both share and expand my interests. The best gift this job has given me is the free time to pursue my interests.
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
I thought I’d had a plenitude of sexual experience when I started—I... had a sex blog where I would write about OKCupid and Craigslist hookups—but most of those encounters were things I was hazing myself through.
'I believe the most important thing to do in life is constantly challenge yourself & learn as much as you can. You need to hustle hard in sex work to be successful.'