What’s important is how I choose to view sex workers, and how I view myself, and the sex workers in the community who I choose to surround myself with. I see us as powerful, empowering, deeply beautiful, nurturing, compassionate, passionate, driven, creative, fun, and just business savvy people.
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
The journey into sex work for me has been enlightening and enjoyable. I appreciate the ample amount of free time this career affords me where I can focus on my hobbies. I feel blessed to have found sex work.
When it comes to sex work, there’s no shortage of lessons to be learned about oneself, including what “sex”, “work” or even what the term “yourself” actually means. I’d have to say that it’s mostly taught me that there's no wrong or right answer.
"As sex workers we take on a lot of emotional labor and energy from our clients. It’s so important to recharge not only our bodies but also our souls."