I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
"I was excited about choosing sex work, and was the happiest I have ever been when I got into it. I performed, met new people and learned from them all the time. I helped people and made people happy."
What’s it like starting out now, when ads have shifted from the back pages of the local paper to almost exclusively online? When everyone talks about being ‘on brand’ and a social media presence is essential?
I’ve been a sex worker for so long now that sometimes I wonder which parts of my high femme identity are things I do because of work, and which parts are due to my work.
'I believe the most important thing to do in life is constantly challenge yourself & learn as much as you can. You need to hustle hard in sex work to be successful.'