I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
The plot of the book follows my fumbles getting into sex work via sugar dating and then… moving off from sugar-stuff into escorting. I decided to publish because of a notably awful date that I went on towards the end of my time on the sugar-sites.
'I think sex work has made me feel like I have to be in a binary to be able to be marketable, and it’s been a journey not letting that dictate my ability to actualize.'
So far, sex work has been a wonderful job for me! I really enjoy meeting different types of people and have felt so lucky to connect with clients and colleagues who both share and expand my interests. The best gift this job has given me is the free time to pursue my interests.
"As sex workers we take on a lot of emotional labor and energy from our clients. It’s so important to recharge not only our bodies but also our souls."