"Being a Black Pro Domme is so empowering and fun with what we are sought for; the different shapes and sizes we come in is any man’s dream... We walk into rooms and command attention without saying a word."
I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
Throughout the years since my return I’ve dabbled in many different forms of sex work; from sugaring to content creation, agency work to independent escorting… you name it and I’ve probably done it!
What’s it like starting out now, when ads have shifted from the back pages of the local paper to almost exclusively online? When everyone talks about being ‘on brand’ and a social media presence is essential?
I’ve been a sex worker for so long now that sometimes I wonder which parts of my high femme identity are things I do because of work, and which parts are due to my work.