I am a New York City-based dominatrix and cultural activist. I started doing BDSM professionally in 2016 after finding a dungeon on craigslist (those were the days) and then mostly did online work for a year or two while I finished college before transitioning to full-time in-person BDSM.
What’s important is how I choose to view sex workers, and how I view myself, and the sex workers in the community who I choose to surround myself with. I see us as powerful, empowering, deeply beautiful, nurturing, compassionate, passionate, driven, creative, fun, and just business savvy people.
Plenty of sex workers have not-so-fun stories about getting started ... Instead, ask us about our favorite movies, music, food, flowers, etc! That is a much better way to learn about us as individuals
I have learned that there isn’t anything that at least someone finds attractive. There is a niche for everything! And along those lines, while you may not be everyone’s cup of tea, you can be certain someone will find you are exactly what they are looking for.
"Being a Black Pro Domme is so empowering and fun with what we are sought for; the different shapes and sizes we come in is any man’s dream... We walk into rooms and command attention without saying a word."